Heard it all, I've heard it all, but it won't hurt at all- what women want.

(Music courtesy of Freddy Ogden, The Islands-On Foreigner)

I recently read a post by a fellow blogger (I'm following her, and highly recommend her blog), about whether or not chivalry is dead.  Please read these ones before continuing on mine.

Here's the first one.
Here's her awesome response to some of our feedback. 

She really has it nailed down with respect to the Mormon culture.  I was very impressed. Her manner of writing is very down to earth, and liberal enough to really say things the way they are. I appreciate that a lot.

Right now, I'm going to directly quote yet another fellow blogger, Heartiste. I'm going to paraphrase a few of his lines as not to offend my entire audience.  I don't recommend reading Heartiste to the ladies, as much of it might be extremely offensive.  Also, I don't want anyone to think that I'm focusing on the sexual aspects of social dynamics, but rather the psychological.  Honestly, my readers thus far are all very chill and mature enough to read this stuff anyway. I appreciate that as well.

DISCLAIMER-  I agree with Heartiste up to a certain degree, in pretty much everything he writes.  There is definitely a different spin on it within our peculiar Mormon culture that should be taken into consideration.

A reader asked if there were any books I could recommend that explored the psychology of women. I suggested “Story of O” and “9 1/2 Weeks”. (The latter was originally a book which is much better than the movie version.)

There is a maxim among the pick-up community that if you want to know what women want it’s better to watch what they do than listen to what they say. Very true. However, if you are going to listen to what a woman says for clues about her innermost desires, or read what she writes, you would do well to pay attention to what a woman says TURNS HER ON. Not what she says she wants in a hypothetical husband or boyfriend but what she specifically describes that got her [physically and emotionally excited]. Any editorial commentary about the ideal man can be safely ignored.

The two books above, both written by women and featuring very beautiful female protagonists, are wide-open windows to the id of women’s sexual natures. What we find there is shocking to most, dispiriting to some, and unsurprising to a few. Women reading these books will, despite themselves, become uncomfortably aroused. Men will discover ancient stirrings within themselves they may have thought civilization and a PC academic indoctrination stamped out.

The beatings and brandings the women in the books suffer, provoke, and then eagerly anticipate in turn are distractions from the main message, which is that the self-confidence and exquisitely suffocating domination of the male characters caused the women to fall so helplessly in love with them that the men could do anything, make any demand, and the women would happily go along just to keep their love. Some men can handle this awesome power, some can’t. The man in 9 1/2 Weeks was consumed by his power as much as his lover, and it got the better of him.

These books, taken together with the real world observations of men who actually live lives like those of the men in the books, tell us what women want.

They want a man who takes charge.

A master.

Adopt the attitude of the master, and women will revert to their naturally submissive essence faster and more profoundly than you can scarcely imagine, and no amount of feminist propaganda, insulating credentials, or careerist ladder climbing will stand in the way of their joyous, even relieving, surrender to your intoxicating dominance and confidence.

Ladies, I really want your input on this one. Be as honest as you can.  And Gentlemen, back me up if you have something to say.

I agree completely that women want a man who takes charge; of his life, his career, his family, whatever it may be.  

On a side note, in response to the "Good Dad" trait that was mentioned by Barbie, I agree with that.  I think it's something that women need to think about when looking for an life/eternal companion.  Maybe it's something that is already considered deep in the  minds of the ladies anyway, but I'm not a psychologist. 

My personal feeling on the matter?

The greatest thing I will ever hope to accomplish in my lifetime, greater than becoming a wealthy CEO, or owning a mansion, or a Ferrari, or solving world hunger (yeah, right), is this:

Becoming a worthy husband and father, and providing for my family both temporally and spiritually. 

This may seem a bit ridiculous to the world, or overly romantic to some, but that's who I am; 

An Oilfield Romantic.